Melissa disliked it when people at the residential care home call her grandmother “Dearie.” She knew they meant well, but she found the word annoying, condescending-like. So one day she told Grandma how she felt. “There are worse things they can call me,” Grandma said, smiling. “Dearie’s all right. I’ll take it over ‘old bag’ anytime.” Melissa laughed. She was …